Customer Reviews
The Rules Work!
I think this is a natural addition to Sherrie and Ellen's previous books. Their concept of the Rules absolutely improves dating.. if you're serious about looking for Mr. Right. It's the best reference so you don't waste your time on-line with Mr. Wrong. I think you still need their first book, The Rules, to reinforce the Rules when you meet your on-line guy.
Very Helpful!
I read the original "Rules" book before it became popular, and I was one of the people who the authors polled when they were working on "The Rules for Online Dating." This book is wonderful if (like me) you are a very sensitive person who is eager to find Mr. Right. I've had my heart broken quite a few times over online dating experiences, and I must admit, each time it happened, I broke the "Rules" that are in this book. It's easy to get carried away with the fantasy of online correspondence, and this "Rules" book will save you a lot of time and heartache.
I was surprised to read so many user-reviews about this book that were written by men. If you are a man, and you are trying to figure women out by reading "The Rules for Online Dating," I have some advice for you...
If you really like a girl, and think you would be a good match, dont give up. Be persisent and try to meet her. Don't worry about whether she is "playing games." Why not? Here's why:
(1) A lady who seems to be "doing THE RULES on you" may have never even heard of this book! There were times when I was not "into" the RULES, and didn't care whether I followed them or not. Then, to my surprise, I noticed that I practiced them by accident, simply because real life got in the way. For instance, I didn't email men back for a few days because I was too busy to check my email. (This can be infuriating if you are the kind of person who checks his email every day, but face it, not everybody does!) I recently met a guy from internet dating who informed me over dinner that he was glad he "tried again." I had no idea what he was talking about. It turns out, he had emailed me before, but I deleted his emails without even looking at them. This had nothing to do with the "Rules" book and everything to do with the job I took to make some extra money for Christmas presents.
(2) If a girl really IS making a conscious effort to follow this book, does it matter? She's just trying to take the relationship slowly. She just wants to be sure you are a nice guy whom she can trust. Would you really advise your sister, daughter, or divorced/widowed mother to email strange men from the internet, share personal information and intimate thoughts with these strange men (in writing!), and go running/flying off to meet and sleep with these men at a moment's notice? Give us girls a break. Most of us don't have Papa standing on the porch with a shotgun when we meet new men, so we have to do SOMETHING to protect ourselves from creeps and "players."
Broke two of these "rules" and have never been happier!
Yes, I actually answered a man's ad and no, he didn't ask me out by the 4th email, but I didn't delete him. Luckily I hadn't read this nonsense or I might have. (then again I never would have considered answering my boyfriend's ad in the first place, would I?) I never even posted my own profile..but I did pay $20 just to open the account so I could contact him. First and only ad I answered. He asked me out in the 6th email, (horrors!) and we've been seeing each other exclusively for almost 6 months now. Best $20 I ever spent...ladies, please..trust yourselves...and trust some of the wise male voices being expressed here as well...everyone--men and women--want to know that you're interested in them..that you're making a connection, have important things in common, and that your time together means something to you. By all means, be safe, use common sense and protect yourselves..but honestly you don't need this mean-spirited book to tell you that. Golden Rule we all learned in kindergarten--all people have feelings...don't hurt them! I shudder to think at how I would have missed meeting this wonderful man in my life had I paid attention to this craziness.
