Customer Reviews
Excellence
This book should not be denigrated by feminists: it is a groundbreaking feminist book! Following The Rules forces women to concentrate on their own lives instead of on 'will he call?' and thus to lead more fulfilling lives. And it is NOT just working on the 'average guy' - in fact, the richer and more accomplished and more self-realized a guy is the more a woman would need to stick by The Rules to remain interesting for him. Men don't like to be clung to, it stifles them and yes, they are hunters - it's just using one's intelligence to work with the facts instead of denying them. The Rules are realistic in their assessment of the differences between men and women and this realistic approach - instead of wishful thinking - as a frame of reference makes the dating game become a balanced part of a woman's life instead of a frustrating zone. Recent scientific research only goes to confirm these male-female differences, the 70's stand of all differences being cultural indoctrination is just untenable: we're equal but different. If a pan is hot one does not use one's bare hands to pick it up, if for a research paper one has to collect data in a certain way one does it like that; if one has to pay in the supermarket one stands in line - if one knows certain facts about male behaviour it is only smart to use this in one's approach to romance. Fein and Schneider's books and their tips like 'do not think too much about a man while your working' [now is this a great career move or what?] and 'be the first one to end a phone call' [i.e. don't cling] are common sense every girl and woman should read. Six stars!
A guy actually applied the rules on me
I haven't read this book yet, but I've finished all the reviews.
It seems like the guy was applying rules on me and I am completely turned off by it. He always end the calls and kept conversation to less than 10min. And we don't spend much time together. When we were first going out, I didn't like him that much. He kept calling me and I tried to avoid his calls. But then I gave him a chance. I continue to go out with him and see what he's like. I eventually end up falling for him. And all of a sudden, he was cold to me. He doesn't initiate the call anymore. Maybe he's doing the rules thing on me. In any case, this rules thing does not work on me. Because I am definetly a good catch and I don't like being ignored. He's history!
AWESOME
This is a book that should be part of a reading list for middle school girls. Women are far too accomodating in relationships. This book is easy to hate, especially for women who are self-righteous "Oh, I'm so much better than this and my way of dating men is so much better." Whatever. Girls, if you want to end up with the man of your dreams, follow these rules. They changed my dating experience for the better.
